Our ideas are very much alive and go through similar life cycles that we do. They start out as babies- wide eyed with pie-in-the-sky attitudes, and the purest beginnings. Then “reality” hits. Without realizing it, they ingest people’s negative opinions, limitations, societal programming, information overload, and doubt. All of this “garbage” continue to tarnish our idea and it seems harder and harder to stay optimistic. Our ideas go through a self identity crisis similar to what we experience in middle school: awkward, brace-faced and unsure of itself, constantly trying to measure up to its peers. If you can get your idea through its painful prepubescent stage, it only gets better as it matures. If you truly believe you have an amazing idea, don’t water it down so that it fits into the little box reality says to put it in. Don’t compare yourself to what others are doing. Remain comfortable in your in skin, even when it’s not so comfortable. It may be difficult to stay positive but it’s not impossible. Push through it. This is not to say things won’t change. Evolving will feel natural. Conforming won’t. You’ll know the difference.
I didn’t get into vision boards until my mid twenties, and I have to admit I didn’t see any real value in them at first. A friend tried to convince me of the power of creative visualization that claims to affect real changes to your circumstances through imagery. The cynic in me thought it was a complete hot steaming pile of hippy bullshit, but the curiosity in me still entertained the idea anyway. So there I was, feverishly and passionately clipping, cutting, gluing, and pasting like I was trying to get an A on an art project. After I was done I felt like I had created a masterpiece definitely worth a solid A- (AT LEAST), but I still felt like I was just putting a bunch of pictures on a board. I wasn’t sold on the life changing aspect of it. Nothing happened afterwards that was mind-blowing. Womp womp womp.
But now that I have about five vision boards in my portfolio over the course of 4 years, here’s my verdict on them: They absolutely work but there is a right and wrong way to do them. If you’ve given them a try and have lost hope (like I did), here are four things I did that worked for me:
Don’t feel discouraged if you feel like you just made a collage. Believe me, you didn’t. Follow these steps and you’ll be well on your way to living the life you’ve always dreamed of. Keep fighting the good fight.
Creating a “To-Do” list is necessary but it is also a constant reminder of everything you HAVEN’T done. Creating a “Done” list is just as important but often overlooked. Every aspect of your life is about balance, and if you are only focusing on the things you’ve yet to accomplish, your stress levels are most likely off the charts. Take the time out to write all of the things you’ve already done. It will change your mood instantly.
A few weeks ago, King Krule took to Facebook to announce that he is in fact working on another album. He’s hands down one of my favorite indie bands out at them moment, and if you don’t know who he is you should. He’s already been cosigned by Frank Ocean and Willow Smith so that should tell you something. Until he does release something new I guess I’ll have to listen to the two solid albums he already has that are the perfect blend of reggae, blues, and alternative rock.
I am not the type of woman that screams “FEMINISM!” at the top of every mountain, but I can say that gender equality in a corporate setting is a hurdle we’ve yet to clear.
Gender equality in the entrepreneurial space is about 100 hurdles.
Although we still have a long way to go, there is a silver lining for all the crazy women out there (like me) who are making the jump to entrepreneurship. According to INC, these are the top 20 cities that are more progressive in embracing us. Did your city make the list?
3. San Francisco (Silicon Valley)
4. Los Angeles
7. Tel Aviv
10. Kuala Lumpur
13. New York
18. Sao Paulo